What is “Soft (Girl) Season”? I remember seeing this term on Instagram one day like “Yes that’s it! That is the season I am in, and I am absolutely loving it!”

There is something amazing about living in your natural feminine energy or being soft. I believe woman are naturally soft, we add beauty, care, a gentleness to the world, and the people in our lives.

I will speak for myself and say that life and the world caused me to become very hard over the years from childhood traumas, being broken hearted and angry, to having people simply take my kindness for weakness.

There was a point in my life where I hated my softer side, I was too sensitive, I cared too much, if I showed that I cared or loved then that person will take advantage of it…at least that’s what I thought.

Our minds do amazing things, anything we tell it to do it will do. I began to tell myself that crying was a weakness. I have been known as “crybaby” since childhood, but I remember there was a time in my adult years when you would not see me cry (I saved it for the shower) I felt that crying was a sign of weakness, and no one could see it.

When it came to my relationships with men there was absolutely no way a man could see me at my weak moments, I avoided being vulnerable, or caring too much. Often times I’ve been told that I act like a man. The same went for friendships. Instead of having grown up conversations after arguments and apologizing, I would just let the friendships go and act as if losing a friend did not hurt. I was also unwilling to create new friendships, because of the “women can’t be trusted” mindset or maybe I just made it hard for new people.

Now in my late 30’s, I honestly no longer have the energy to put on this show of a Hard Woman! I am a beautiful, strong, but soft woman and I am okay with that.

I am enjoying my femininity in all of its glory. What I am learning in this season is that being soft is a good look, there is a glow that comes from letting your walls down and just being yourself.

In this season:

• I give love and accept love.
• I am vulnerable and allow others to be vulnerable with me.
• I am able to create new bonds and friendships that I probably wouldn’t have in the past.
• I am a better mother
• I forgive others and myself (this has always been the hardest for me)
• I set boundaries instead of putting up a wall (being soft doesn’t mean let people walk all over you, set boundaries and do not allow people to take advantage of you)
• I am still a crybaby and that is okay
• I can apologize when I am wrong
• I am a better partner
• I am learning to trust

I often hear these days that I am glowing, some say that it is Atlanta, and some say it’s my relationship. I say that it is me finding God and finding me loving and accepting me, that includes the softer side of me everything else is a result of that. Essentially, I think that’s what my Soft Girl Season looks like for me, being myself unapologetically.

What does soft girl season look like to you? Let me know in the comments.

Until next time

XO, Kieks