~Vladimir Horowitz
A few years ago I found myself in a relationship where I was constantly made to feel as if I wasn’t good enough to be with or to be Loved.
Through out this relationship I tried everything to prove to this person that I was good enough. I changed the way I dressed, my hair, stopped going out, any and everything to be what he viewed as the perfect woman. Of course nothing I did made him see me any different. I realized that he would never be happy searching for perfection in me and I will never be happy trying to be some one I am not.
It was then I realized I did not want to be someone’s definition of perfection. I would much rather be me Perfectly Imperfect.
“When you aim for perfection, you discover it’s a moving target.”
George Fisher
Fact is perfection is unattainable and frankly where is the fun in being perfect? Now I will admit there are parts of my life the perfectionist in me comes out top of the list would be when I am party planning, if things don’t turn out how it is in my mind I will flip!!
What I have realized lately is that striving for perfection can take the joy out of the moment.
For example, when I prepare for a night out, I usually have my entire outfit in my head days prior if the day comes and the outfit does not turn out perfectly the way I envisioned it I will not feel right the rest of the night which can ruin and other wised good night.
The idea of looking perfect to yourself, being perfect or being seen as perfect creates unnecessary pressure which creates anxiety which takes away enjoyment.
There is still that part of me the wants perfect looks and perfect moments, I would be lying if I said otherwise.
But the perfectly imperfect part of me that knows if I wear a white shirt I will definitely get food all over it, the goofy girl that says whatever comes to mind the girl who will dance in a public space like the mall because there is some type of music playing and the girls who is unashamed to share her not so perfect story with those that will read or listen and the woman who has those freeing moments where she will walk the beach in a two piece bathing suit showing her imperfect stomach filled with stretchmarks.
In conclusion I hope that one day we all understand that perfection is a myth and no one in the world outside of God is perfect. You are perfect as you are today. Don’t let anyone or the world make you think believe anything different.
“The thing about perfection is it’s unknowable. It’s impossible. But it’s always right in front of you.”
Kevin Flynn
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