Why are we so mean to ourselves? Especially us women.

I recently had a conversation with a friend, and she was paying me a compliment on a picture I posted. The picture was about a year old, so I responded I don’t look like that anymore and proceeded to beat myself down lightly.

In that same conversation my friend started to be not so kind to herself, honestly saying something about herself that I have said about myself on many occasions, my response was no we are not doing that we are being nice to ourselves. Catch the hypocrisy?

Why can we see the best in everyone else but not ourselves?

I know I have personally always been able to give kind words and praise to others that I have rarely been able to give to myself.

I have spent so much of my life being mean to myself that is rarely any room for it to come from anywhere else.

I read something one day that said a that people who are hard on themselves spent most of their childhood being judged by others. “I agree”

 I also think that as women we are judged so heavily by the world  that seeing how great we are is hard. The world makes us feel like there is a standard (looks, figure, have children, don’t have children, married, have a man ,don’t have one, accolades etc. I could go on but I wont lol) to live up to and if we do not live up to that standard, we are not worthy of kind words, compliments, and Love. We tend to judge ourselves based on those standards that are truthfully un realistic. We are not all meant to look the same be shaped the same or accomplish all of the same things.

Just like everything else change starts with you! Believe that you are the standard because you are.

I am here to let you know that you are worthy of kind words from yourself.

What you think of yourself, how you speak to yourself and how you see yourself affects how you move in this world.

Join me in challenging ourselves today to just be nicer to ourselves everyday.

Just like every bad habit it start with one small change.

Affirmations are a great way to boost your self love. If you don’t know where to start maybe start here.

Affirmations~ the assertion that something exists or is true.

• I chose to be kid to myself
• I Love myself exactly as I am today
• I appreciate myself and my uniqueness
• I Love who I am
• I Love each part of myself
• I am confident
• I am intelligent
• I am loving
• I am courageous 
• I am imperfect, like everyone else, and that’s OK
• I deserve love and partnership
• I am generous
• I am thoughtful
• I am strong
• I am beautiful
• I am—and will always be—a work in progress
• My relationship to myself is entirely up to me
• I feel good about who I am
• I pursue my goals
• I am creating the life I desire
• I get to decide how I treat myself today and every day
• I have people in my life who deeply care about me
• I welcome good things into my life
• I cannot control my external environment, but I can control how I respond internally
• I am exactly where I’m supposed to be
• Everything is unfolding exactly as it should
• I am worthy of fun
• I am worthy of connection
• I am worthy of rest
• I am worthy of peace
• I am worthy of health
• I am worthy of the life I desire
• I am worthy of success
• I am perfect as I am today, and there is still room for growth
• I accept there may always be parts of myself I’d like to work on
• I’m doing my best
• I am more than my job
• I am enough
• I courageously step into the vulnerability of uncertainty/love/discomfort
• I get out of my comfort zone and see it as an opportunity for growth, resilience, and self-love
• I am worthy of respect and kindness
• I treat my body with love and care
• I accept all of me
• I am a good friend to myself and others
• I am lovable just as I am
• I am worthy of my dreams
• I like myself
• I deserve to feel safe and secure
• I am grateful for my healthy body
• I am grateful for my inquisitive mind
• I am present
• I need only focus on right here, right now
• I am relaxed and calm
• I can get through difficulties
• I am proud of myself
• I am happy and healthy
• I am living with purpose
• Every day is a gift
• I am full of joy
• I feel content
• I am positive
• I love being alive
• Every day I embody the best version of myself
• I’m surrounded by love
• My life is abundant
• I have everything I need
• I always pick myself back up
• I am powerful
• I will press on and go forward
• I release what no longer serves me
• I am adaptable
• I am deserving of what I desire, and I will achieve it
• I know my worth
• I radiate confidence
• I make decisions that support my highest good
• I am a wonderful person
• I am my own No. 1
• I am my biggest fan
• I am always learning and growing
• I am resilient
• I am evolving
• I radiate love and compassion
• I know what’s best for me
• I am grateful for who I am
• Every day I am better than yesterday
• I prioritize myself
• I am my main focus
• I trust myself
• I listen to my intuition and inner voice
• I am in tune with my highest self
• Love is always available to me
• I have so much love to give
• I show myself love every day
• I take care of myself
• I do things that nourish my soul
• I believe in myself
• I stand up for what I believe in
• I take healthy risks
• I matter to myself
• I matter to my loved ones
• I make the world a better place
• I prioritize my own peace
• My life is a testament of love

Thank you for choosing to read my blog! Until next time

xoxo, Kieks