Life Update

“How are you handling your 40’s?”

That’s what my partner asked me the other day — simple question, big answer.

I had to pause.

Because the truth is… this year, I am handling it.
But last year? 40–41? It was handling me.
And to be honest, it was hard.

The transition into my 40s didn’t come with a manual. It came with changes — physical ones I didn’t expect, emotional ones I wasn’t prepared for, and a mental shift I couldn’t ignore. I felt like I was unraveling in ways I couldn’t quite explain.

Some days, I didn’t recognize myself. My energy felt off. My body was different. I started questioning everything — my choices, my direction, my worth.

But here’s the beautiful part: I didn’t stay there.

Somewhere between all the chaos, I realized I wasn’t meant to “bounce back” to anything. I was being called to evolve. To unlearn. To soften.

I started listening to what I actually needed — more rest, better boundaries, movement that felt good, food that fueled me, and spaces that fed my peace.

I let go of the pressure to “keep up” and instead leaned into what felt aligned.

Now, I’m showing up differently. Not perfectly, but intentionally.

“I am becoming Imperfectly Her.“

42 is around the corner, and I can happily say, I’m not afraid of it.

I’m standing in it.

And I’m proud of how far I’ve come.

If you’re reading this and in the thick of it — navigating the shift, the uncertainty, the identity changes — please know this: you’re not alone.

Your 40s aren’t about being “figured out.” They’re about becoming unapologetically you.

Let’s talk about it:

How are you handling your 40s (or preparing for them)? Leave a comment or share your own journey below.

Until Next Time Keep Growing and Thriving on the Journey.

xo, Kieks