Growing up, I wasn’t always safe. Because of that, I made a promise to myself: my daughter would never have to recover from her childhood. Every decision I made as a parent was intentional, from the people I allowed around her to the environment I created at home.

Breaking generational curses isn’t easy, but it’s necessary. Here’s how I made sure my daughter’s childhood was one of peace, stability, and security.

Protecting Her from Toxic Family

One of the hardest but most important choices I made was keeping my daughter away from toxic family members. Just because someone is family doesn’t mean they deserve access to your child. I refused to let history repeat itself, even when it meant making difficult and sometimes painful decisions. Protecting her peace was more important than keeping up appearances.

Creating a Safe and Stable Home

Home should be a place of safety, not uncertainty. I was intentional about keeping our home a calm, stable space—one where she felt secure. I didn’t allow just anyone in and out of our home because you have to be careful about who you expose your children to. Energy, behaviors, and influences matter. Limiting the number of people in her environment ensured that our home remained a sanctuary.

Letting Her Be a Child

I wanted my daughter to have a childhood full of happy memories, not one filled with responsibilities beyond her years. Part of that meant keeping her in the same school until high school so she could build long-term friendships and a sense of belonging. To this day, she still has relationships with many of the people she grew up with. Stability in her environment allowed her to focus on being a kid and creating the kind of memories that shape a joyful childhood.

Setting Boundaries on Sleepovers & Being Honest About Why

I made a conscious decision not to let my daughter sleep over at other people’s homes unless I felt comfortable. It wasn’t about being overprotective—it was about being cautious. Children deserve to feel safe, and as a parent, it was my responsibility to ensure that safety. I was always open and honest with her about why I made this choice. Teaching her to understand boundaries and trust her instincts was just as important as setting the rules in the first place.

I was not a perfect parent by any means but I did my best

Breaking generational curses isn’t just about what we leave behind; it’s about what we choose to build. I built a life for my daughter that she doesn’t have to recover from—a life where she was protected, nurtured, and allowed to just be a child.

Now, when the conversation comes up about why I raised her the way I did, she says, “Mom, I understand now. Thank you.”

If you’re on a similar journey, know that setting boundaries, making hard choices, and protecting your child’s peace are acts of love.

The cycle can end with you.

Thank you for reading todays blog!

Until next time keep growing thriving and enjoying the journey.

xo, Kieks