Hey Loves back again two blogs in a week (pats self on the back) lol. I am trying yall.

This morning as I was scrolling the gram I stopped to listen to a post captioned this is why I am still single. In the post she speaks about a man handling a woman being a woman. She speaks about how she would like a man to handle her emotional moments high stress, PMS excreta. “I am a woman I am emotional I overdue things I can be dramatic”. She then speaks to a man that has the ability to settle her mind in those moments rather than being mean, calling her names like sensitive or in anyway making how she feels worse.

This made me think about when I was single and I would think about the type of man I wanted. You know tall dark and handsome and all the other things. But the biggest want was someone who accepted me for who I am.

Fast forward to current I have been with my man now for a year and a half and accepting me for who I am is more than what I even thought.

Being myself comes with a more vulnerable side where in the past I would hide my anxiousness or hide that I am having issues in any part of my life afraid of judgement I am now free in my relationship to be me in my relationship good, bad and ugly.

In the post she speaks about a man standing in his power as a man to put at ease during those moments of emotional chaos. I agree, there is something so amazing about having a man that is the calm to my crazy, because “I am a woman I am emotional I overdue things I can be dramatic”. Having that person that knows what you need in those moments is something I did not know I needed but I am absolutely glad I found it. Being able to call him to cry when work is overwhelming and he takes the time to calms me even when his work day is not the greatest, or just understanding that in my quiet moment I might just need to go for a walk or putting my thoughts into perspective when I am spiraling is amazing to have and I am so grateful for him.

As great as this is, because men and women are from two different planets I do believe that knowing yourself and being able to also tell your partner who you are and what you need is essential. Clear communication applies here as in everything else in relationships. If I had not told him while we were dating that I suffered with anxiety and depression in the beginning I don’t know if he would have been able to handle my first break down he probably would have ran honestly, it was pretty bad. Even after not running it took a lot of conversations about why it was happening and what I needed.

I believe in the end he loved me and values our relationship enough to want to understand me, as the emotional chaotic, aggravating and imperfect woman that I am.

I wish everywoman that reads this, this kind of love and acceptance in the future.

Until next time

xoxo, Kieks