Hey Luvs

It has been too long since my last blog post I have been personally, mentally and physically all over the place and not in the headspace to Blog. With that being said Heyyy I hope 2023 is going great for you all! Is it me or does every year seem to go by a little faster that the one before?

I recently had conversations with some of my good friends and interestingly enough when I asked about their dating lives they repeated the exact same thing to me “I am single and I am content”. This seems to be a new norm for women so of course duh I wanted to write about it.

As a woman who has made this same statement not to long ago I might add, I wholeheartedly understand the feeling and the sentiment of this statement. I may or may not have stated in other posts that I was single for about three years prior to getting into my new relationship, and honestly that season of my life was great it was life changing in so many ways a great time in my life.

During that three years I took time to self evaluate, heal from all of my past relationship and childhood traumas (still healing it does not stop) and nurture my platonic relationships. I enjoyed that much needed time in my life but I still missed having someone to share life with.

Fast forward to now being in a healthy loving also imperfect relationship I am even more grateful for that time in my life during that time I learned what makes me a happy the things that I liked and wanted my person to eventually be apart of. I learned what my boundaries were and how to set them as well as let whomever I dated know what they were. This time in my life I also cultivated what I believe will be long life frienships with great woman which may not have happened prior. I also moved to whole new state and started a whole new life. I am happy to say that so far this has worked out for me.

If I were to go back and talk to my single self today I would tell her the same thing I told my friends “Your single season is great but healthy love and companionship is also. Enjoy your season it is beautiful and amazing but do not move in fear of the possibility that you can also be content and happy with someone as well”.

Now I’m not gonna hold ya’ll I know that the dating pool these days has piss in it, but I believe that every one is deserving of Love.

As I get older I finally understand what my mom always said to me “We were not put on this earth to be alone”.

Believe you are worthy of the Love you desire because you are.

What advice would you give your younger self about dating and Love?

xoxo Kieks