Hey lovelies, happy third week of 2023! I Hope you all are having a great start to this New Year!

I know I have! Even though my year started off not the best to be honest things seem to be looking up.

If you read my last blog, you know I decided that this year will be my selfish year and I will be taking care of myself before anything and anyone. The past few weeks I have gotten back into the church and the gym, I have been meal prepping. journaling, and taking whatever time needed for me. This week’s selfcare choice was a massage and it was amazing and extremely needed. Honestly, I have been feeling a lot better now that I am pouring back into me. If you haven’t been selfish yet this year this is your sign to do it now!!!

During a conversation with my daughter this week we hit on the topic of fear. She said to me “when I think about how I was raised and who I was raised by, I never saw fear.” Her comments to me made me think… when I was younger, I did not move in fear I may have been scared, but I didn’t fear much. If I wanted something I made sure it happened, the same way my mother, aunt, and grandmother.

The thought of how fearless I used to be seems a little crazy now. I was a teen mom with no real help for most of our lives and any choice I made would ultimately affect my child. On the other hand, being fearful feels like a luxury to me because most of my life was lived in, I got to do what I got to do mode because I had someone to take care of.

Fast for forward to now, a woman in her late 30’s (turning 40 this year OMG), I am literally the most fearful I have ever been in my entire life. This was actually the first thing that I said to my therapist in my first therapy session.

This fear comes from feeling that now I am too old to make the wrong decision. I am constantly in fear of what people will think of my move or what they will say about me if my next move fails.

The problem with this fear is that you remain stagnant because you will not make a move. I am making a promise to myself today to move in spite of fear! So many of the people I love tell me “F*ck what them people have to say, do whatever makes you happy!” Truth is that people will talk not matter what. You have to live your life.

Failure is really just how we look at a situation. you can choose to look at something not working out as a failure or as a lesson but you’ll never know if you do not make a move.

As I am typing this, I am reminded of a quote from Bishop Bronner’s New Year’s Eve sermon, he spoke about finding your WHY. You have to try everything, one of those things will eventually lead you to your WHY. I will keep you guys posted on all of my upcoming fearless moves but until then:

Let’s talk about it:

• Are you living in fear or are you living fearlessly?

• How has the new year been so far?

• Did you make resolutions? How is it going?

I cannot wait to hear from you.

Until next time! Have a great weekend.

xo Kieks